You're definately one of the most honest guys out there. Any guy who admits to banging two ton tillies and realizes there's a problem, well, hey...help is on the way. Now, right up front here ladies...no woman wants to be 5'0" and 211 lbs, NO WOMAN WANTS THAT, so please don't expect this guy to accept or "settle" for that. Because I'm not gonna. You deserve better. You need to wait on better. And as far as I'm concerned, an average-looking woman (C to C+) who's got a nice shape AND NORMAL WEIGHT is a whole lot better than an internet fattie. And the dirty little secret out there for guys is that C+ to B women are the absolute best bedmates going! They try harder. Absolute truth. B+'s are great too if you can find one with the "ugly duckling syndrome" from years past, but I'm getting off the subject here. I've got plenty of women friends on this board and they're all hating me right now because I'm completely honest on the subject of the rampant female over-eating problem in America. It's out...of...control. And you ladies expect us to overlook it as if it's no biggie. TRUST ME, IT'S A BIGGIE TO US GUYS!!! I'm a tall, dark, and handsome fit guy...why should I settle? Answer: I shouldn't and I didn't. Neither should this guy. We guys are easy to understand and make happy if you women just understand how we operate. All things being equal, a fit guy deserves a fit woman if that is important to him. I agree with you that 30 lbs. over isn't an automatic disqualifier. If she's got all the bases covered, then fine, I get that. But you've got to keep your standards high. Don't let me down...keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars!