You've got problems with this marriage. Your guy wants the action that the single friend provides and you can't compete with that. This marriage is destined for failure or in the least, odds against success 3 to 1. Your fellow hasn't grown up yet, which is a problem most women just can't seem to understand. Don't marry boys. Marry men. And men don't smoke weed and go to strip bars with their troublemaker buddies...they spend time with their wives and eventual family. Do you feel lucky? I sure hope so because if this guy works out for you I want you to buy my next lotto tickets!