This is why women shouldn't shack up with guys they don't marry, and why women shouldn't make babies with loser guys. Case in point. Don't dwell on why your bum treated you badly...that's what bums do. He found another honey to do in Florida and that's that. Get on with life and raise that little girl to make better decisions than you have made. That's something positive you can concentrate on. Enough with the "why this" and "why that". She needs you...