Yep, mine daughter is 32 and essentially well off- stock options in Silcon Valley etc.
But ya know I could just use an ear and a shoulder- if she even smells me cracking she heads for the hills
It actually activates an old eating disorder- she can not deal with it
And I do not ask anymore- she has seen brittle strength in me- standing my ground- and pushing against
that when she saw the cracks developing she couldn't handle it
The cracks were healthy and they brought compassion for the years ...not importanat
years of that behavior agaisnt all odds
but no more and I am still going to do the right thing for eveyone concerned, but it is OK to be sad and cry and have the depth of disappointment when I feel personal hurt
So it's just another choice on the human menu-even if it does nothing but relieve tension!
(I used to cry alot, then not at all,just take care of what needs to be done and move ahead-next!)
The real sadness comes from the fact that she is much like me at her age- low tolerance for the non- doers- she will change but at what price? I can already see the forming of the fault lines...and how I love her!