Molly & Miss Kitty, more women than not either have been abused or are being abused. I disagree with the post that suggests that abusers are suffering from the effects of syphilis - abusers have only one disease: CONTROLITIS.
So, we have to teach our children (male & female) about narcissism and abuse in the best ways that we can. I know a number of women that are narcissists, as well. And, the damage to people who are taken in by these people is so devastating that it's crippling, for most. I had mentioned the gal with the Ph.D in psychology that got involved with a couple of these guys - she's STILL trying to find closure and she was only dating them for less than 3 months!
About the artwork, my abuser refused to recognize my desire to express myself, artistically or otherwise! And, the lecturing, Miss Kitty, I remember very well. For hours and hours and hours, it would go on until my brain was completely shut down. And, you BET it's a good thing you didn't have kids with that man!