Wow, finally....a woman whose spouse is also charming. I was beginning to wonder. And feel guilty....like I had to make sure everybody here knows how wonderful my husband is. Uhhh. Wonderful narcissist? Is there such a thing? Is he wonderful so he can be called "wonderful", therefore, it is still all manufactured?? When is he being "wonderful" and when is he being narcissistic? Jekyll? Hyde??
It takes years sometimes. The thing that made me go "bingobango" and identify with you was the horrendous "YOU can take it" attitude I endure to this day.
I have had to make sure that he understands that I will NOT "take it" unless it is to shove it up his ass.
And NAIVE??????? Oh, migod. You can't hold a candle to how naive I was. No more.
Yours left ....thank God. I am in a totally different situation. He gets to be "wonderful" because he takes care of me. Because I can no longer take care of myself. Because of the injuries. Blanks out after that, he does.
I frankly do not understand how in the hell these men even live with themselves. *I* have abused others when I was in so much pain I was little more than a wounded animal (except that they get compassion; zippo here)......and I wanted to just die because I had hurt other human beings. It ate away at me. I always feel very badly if I hurt someone else. Makes me very sensitive to what I do.
Not these guys. It's like they feel entitled to hurt others. (I sometimes tell myself that he does this because he was an only child until 8 yrs of age but I know that is pure BS.)
Good post. Hope the nightmares end. (Mine haven't either. They are brutal. I wake up with my heart POUNDING. And he is beside me. No wonder I have nightmares.)