Oh yeah dear, he hit you - just not with his fist. I still hate the part of the thread where you described the screaming in the face. I think he would've eventually hit you.
Molly is smart, too, and I agree with her - there is NO WAY someone will "get it right" with him - if they do, it is VERY temporary.
you did make a comment "even for sex" about not wanting to get with a man right now. That is very wise. Abusive relationships often start with "scratching that itch" with someone, and then getting attached. I think that sex is such a god-given thing that when you attach your body to another persons', even just for a screw, you are blending your energy into his, and if this is a negative use of the energy, it will indeed backfire. I think today of a couple of times where I gave that energy to someone that I didn't even know, and I can't for the life of me figure out why I did that. I also mistook sex for love, and that got me in loads of trouble. So be careful - that's why they make vibrators, and that "urge to mate" should be controllable in us humans who were supposedly given the power of discernment about sex and are instructed in ANY spiritual walk we take that is founded in love NOT to just give it away. It makes us the higher order to restrain instinct. I realize this is contradictory to the "do it if it feels good attitude", and it is just my opinion, but I believe it to be true at a soul level and am therefore passing it on.