I have a son who is nearly 18 months old and my husband is pressureing me to get pregnant again with a second child. Sometimes I feel like I want another baby but other times I just want to enjoy my son and focus only on him. If I got pregnant now my son would just barley be over 2 years old when I have a tiny baby. He will still be in diapers. I have mixed feelings about this whole spaceing thing. Some people say to have them close others say to space them or they fight. What would be the ideal spaceing? 3 years? I think 3 would be good because then Jacob could understand more of what is going on. I don't know what to do? Should I give into my husband. I am also still nursing JAcob and he really enjoys nursing. He doesn't want to wean anytime soon. I also wanted to do some cleansing before I got pregnant again. Can I start cleansing now? Jacob only nurses at night and for comfort. I really think he will nurse until he is at least 2. My mom is encourageing me to not wean him becuase she says its better to let the child wean naturally as it creates insecurity if they are weaned too soon. Jacob is very indepdent but he likes his mommy time. I see his big blue eyes looking up at me and I can't bear to cut him off yet. He only says less than 5 words so it doesn't seem like I am nursing a kid. He is still a baby to me. Well I guess I need some advice becuase I am torn here. I would like to hear from other parents who have more than one child and what they think of spaceing. Whether you regret having your kids close or wished they were closer. I am soo torn right now. Please help.