it wasn't a relative -- we don't have any relatives in our state. It was a guy at her friend's house - a friend of the father I think.
I did not know anything happened at all until around 2000 when someone outside the family told me she had told them. They waited almost a year before telling me, and that really made me mad. When I asked, she gave me an 'almost molested but got away' story, and would say no more, no matter how I pleaded.
I don't really have *any* details, just what I have guessed at from putting 2 and 2 together over the years.
In hindsight I recall that I did find evidence, but did not understand what I was seeing. I thought it was something else.