I know finding creative and productive things to do that me happy really is the key. I will make an attempt at this.
The thing is, is that I WAS happy along for a long time, and still I didn't meet anybody, now, the FEAR of being alone forever has recently crept up on me causing me to be sad.
I know bars arnen't the way to meet men, but there really isn't much else to do in my town except go to church or bars or the summer events, that really is it, of course there is always a class I could take or volunteer in something, but my heart has to be in it and I don't know what I would like to do, I'll figure something out.
That's very encourasing that you met somebody by going to a museum and not looking. But I know that underneath I will always "be looking" It's just there with me.
I will look into volunteering in something NOT to meet someone, but just to help.
Perhaps you are right and I'm in a VERY LONG dry spell, and maybe I still do need to do some healing, I still think about him frequently and get sad, he killed himself out of the blue, this nearly sent me over the edge for a long time. But like I said, I'm much better now I'm pretty sure I have healed from that devestation as much as I ever will.
Your advice is excellent, I will attempt to do all that you suggest. I'll post how things work out.