Thank so much for your post, everything you said makes perfect sense, thank you very much.
Yes, updating and maturing my standards is probably exactly what I need to do. I'm just so used to successful "hotees" when I was younger, how do you eat fish sticks when you are used to Lobser and still be satisfied? This will be a hard one to attempt, my brain is wired to be attracted to certain types, I don't know how to re-wire it, but I will try.
Yes, discover people, wow, what a concept, I've never done that, sounds like a new hobbby for me, LOL :)
I'm so happy for you that you "matured" your standards and met a wonderful woman, this give me great hope. If I understand "mature my standards" does that mean what I can live with and not what society tells me is right for me?
"(tip: most people think of themselves as the opposite of how they would like to appear). Once you really know and understand someone, whether or not you're attracted will take care of itself. Hope this helps."
What an excellent tip :) Ever think of writing a reltionship book, you have wisdom.