My husband talks to me that way too. He has a very low self esteem as your wife. I don’t think the problem is the communication, it’s our spouses. They don’t love themselves, so how can they love someone else? They don’t respect themselves, so they disrespect us. I have grown tremendously over the last year, I’m so much stronger. I’ve stopped blaming myself and started sticking up for myself. I am becoming a better person and he’s going through hell right now, but there’s nothing I can do about it. Everything that’s going on is his choice. My husband, as well as your wife, has to face what ...
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I’m female, 43 yrs old, and found out a year ago that I was molested by a cousin when I was five. I started getting headaches when I was 35, and no one could tell me why and no one could help with the pain. Until I started seeing this alternative chiropractor. She tested using kinesiology, I would reccomend you finding a chiro that uses it. Anyway, she tested and told me that the headaches started because my body was ready to deal with what happened. I had no memory of it. In the last year I have had 1 vision/memory of what happened. I will remember more when I’m ready, as will you too. ...
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Yes, EFT will help. Go to emofree.com. Read all you can, download the the FREE book. It was not your fault. You were young and didn’t know. I myself was molested when I was 5 and it last 2 years. It has caused me many health issues that I’m now dealing with. I’m dealing with my past which is helping the present. Light and Love   [End]
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Yes, you can escape Seattle. Go to emofree.com and read all that you can there. Download the FREE book. It works. Do it for yourself first. Then do it for your kids. Light and Love   [End]
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I’ve been married almost 25 years, it’s been a rollercoaster most of the time, but I sure have learned a lot! It’s never only one persons fault. There’s only one person you can change.....yourself. You must be willing to change. Marriage is hard, on both people. You both must work on this together. He must be willing to do something for you, and you must be willing to do something for him. You must get passed your feelings of betrayal of the pictures....I can tell you that because that’s what I’m doing. Talk to your husband and see what’s the reason why he ’looks’. My husband did w ...
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Wow, that does sound weird. No, I don’t think he cares about you, he’s a controller. He’s controlling you. He’s obsessive with you, that’s why he has all that stuff of yours. Hire a private investigator and see what he does with his time and with who. Then you’ll know the truth.   [End]
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Yes, I can see that at 11, but not 3. I have two girls never told them about ’the hole’ until later years. But, it did help that they never asked until later years also. It’s possible that she could have asked her mother where babies come from and mom could have said ’a hole down there’. Then she investigated. Either way, I would investigate.   [End]
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Infinite Love, Thank you for such a wonderful response! I really needed it. Since I wrote that I’ve told my mother, and she’s not sure if it’s true because I don’t really remember much. She doesn’t believe in kinesiology. She and my sister says that there’s no reason to tell anyone, so let’s just keep it quiet. I told them ’whatever’. I didn’t tell them my intentions of contacting his daughter-in-law, and I’m not gonna tell them. I’m not gonna have it on my conscience that I let it happen to someone else. I will be calling her soon, please pray for me to do this. Thank you again f ...
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Use KY jelly, you can get that at any drug store. That’s all we’ve ever used.   [End]
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The only thing that concerns me is that, how does she know that there’s ”a hole down there”? If you or your husband didn’t tell her, someone did. I would calmly ask her who told her that. I don’t want to alarm you, I’m just so very cautious with my children because I was molested as a child.   [End]
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Where do you start with ’your story’? Start in the present and go back, or visa-versa? It really doesn’t matter, does it? I’m a female in my early 40’s married for 25 yrs, have 3 awesome kids! About 8 or 9 years ago, everything seemed to be falling apart, my life, my marriage, especially my health. I had put on weight, I couldn’t stop eating, but I knew that I have always eaten a lot. I was having pain in my shoulders, neck and especially my head. Terrible headaches, migraines, whatever you want to call them, it was painful. Along with that I became sensitive to noise, odors, and motion ...
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When boys have been sexually abused, a lot of the time they go on and abuse. But when it happens to girls, they usually don’t. Why is this? Does anyone have a logical explanation. My doc said it was because the male usually thinks that he’s superior. Where as the female is the caregiver of the children and they want no harm coming to them.   [End]
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NO! What kind of question is that? Is that all she is to you? Talk to her, discuss it and compromise. Come to an agreement that both of you can live with.   [End]
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Ok, what kind of response are you looking for? I’m female, that usually have 2 cllmaxs with my husband during our love making; sometimes, but rarely it’s 3 times. So what do you want to know?   [End]
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That’s awesome! These couples that have separate bedrooms in their 50’s and hardly have sex is beyond me. I know this happens because my parents and in-laws do this. I know that life gets in the way, opposite working shifts, kids, whatever. But you need to keep the sex life alive, it draws couples together. My husband and I have a great sex life, not as often as we would like, but when we do, we really enjoy ourselves and each other.   [End]
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Hey, I’m a female. Most of the time when my husband and I are having sex, it’s OK. So we ALWAYS use clit stimulation so I can enjoy myself too. I’ve never (I’m 42) had an orgasm with only penetration by the penis....it just doesn’t do enough for me. There’s nothing wrong with clit stimulation. If you want to enjoy yourself, then do it. We buy massagers at walmart and use that for the ’stimulator’. Hope this helps   [End]
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You’ve GOT TO HAVE ONE!! It’s indiscribable! Use an electric massager on the clitoris while hubby is making love to you from behind, you’ll love it!!   [End]
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We just found out that our almost 11 yr old son has a reading and writing disability. Can this be fixed with anything? He’s in the 5th grade but his reading is at 3rd grade and writing is even worse. Thanks   [End]
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Is yeast and candida the same thing? My diet the last couple of weeks has been horrible! And the last couple of days I’ve been itchy in the vaginal area with a discharge and has a smell to it. I figured it’s an over abundance of yeast. Thanks!   [End]
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I’m lost. I feel I have no purpose, actually, I think I have a purpose but I have no discipline to accomplish my goals of health, family, and a business. I feel like giving up. I feel terrible. I have 3 wonderful kids and a husband who is also struggling with life. Any insight would be wonderful. If not, I’m sorry for using space on your forum. Have a good day.   [End]
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Hey, no since in argueing with her. She’s rude and inconsiderate of other peoples feelings. She is an angry person, you can tell in what she says and how she says it. I feel sorry for her husband.   [End]
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Nope. Just read up on them, and pick one out and order it.   [End]
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have you had your hormones checked to see if you have an imbalance?   [End]
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Hey M, I was thinking, we have read some books that have helped us. If you’re interested, they are: ”The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman ”His Needs Her Needs” by Willard Harley Blessings to both of you   [End]
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Yes, I do know what you’re talking about. We do love each other and are willing to work things out, it’s two-sided, which means we both have to do that terrible word.....CHANGE. You’re very welcome for the encouragement. If I can help in any other way, let me know. There’s always a reason for every thing. There’s a reason your wife is acting this way, you just need to coax it out of her.   [End]
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No, a dildo and vibrator are not the same thing as a massager or a clitoris tool. Dildos and vibrators go into the vagina. The others touch right on the clitoris and stimulates it; you can do that alone or do it while fingering or intercourse. Try it, believe me, she’ll love it!! Hope it helps   [End]
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Most women are more excited and wanting it the first 2 weeks after her period, which is ovulation time.   [End]
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I am female. I have been married for 22 yrs. I have found that men (my husband) will always and have always wanted to make love. I have heard: ”Men need a place, women need a reason.” I have found that to be so true. But, my dh and I have worked hard at this. I like to go to a movie, out to dinner, but he doesn’t like to. He still doesn’t take me out much; but I try to give him what he needs too, because I know that I would be heartbroken if he strayed. It is difficult for us, I work first shift, he works a late second shift. I’m in the middle of my sleep when he gets home---who wants to w ...
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Use a massager or clitoris tool on the clitoris, this will have her excited in no time; this is almost the only way I can have an orgasim.   [End]
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Yes, they do. My husband and I have been married 22 years. I still enjoy sex, very much. But, I don’t want it all the time. I heard this quote: ”Men need a place, women need a reason.” That’s true. Men get turned on by sight and smell. I get turned on by: How am I treated? Did he show me that he loved me by other means than sex? It’s all in caring, sharing, and do I feel secure. That’s the way I am anyway. I have NEVER been able to have an orgasm with only intercourse. I have to have some sort of battery/electric powered tool to help. I have NEVER faked an orgasm. What’s the point? I co ...
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You weren’t unfriendly, don’t worry about it.   [End]
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Thank you Zule. And I did do that.....but man, I was reading for a long time! It is very time consuming, but rewarding. thanks again   [End]
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Well, there are actually people, like me, who don’t know how to research. I ask questions from people on the forum, but who else would there be? My only know-how of research is try it.....if it works, then it was a good buy. Other than that, I’m lost.   [End]
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