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Holistic Safer Sex
If you do not know your partner’s test status it’s best to assume that they have at least one sexually transmitted infection and to govern yourself accordingly. If you do not know your test results you should also assume that you have at least one sexually transmitted infection and should take the appropriate precautions to inform and protect your partner/s.
Date: 12/5/2006 10:46:19 AM ( 18 y ) ... viewed 2763 times A Holistic Guide to Safer Sex
Have Sex:
A happy and life-affirming sex life is your God/dess given right. Don’t feel that you have to opt out of the joys of life just because you have a life-long herpes infection. It’s not easy to feel sexy when you are having regular outbreaks, especially if you are a woman, but it’s important to feel like a whole, clean, desirable person.
I’ve written before and I’ll write it again that having herpes or hpv doesn’t make you any less attractive, or sexy or moral or clean as you were before you got herpes or hpv. Perception can be very deceptive; especially the way many people choose to see themselves. You have the power to change how you see yourself for the better. If you want sex and are not having any symptoms of an outbreak or prodrome there’s no reason in the world not to have sex. Beyond the physical pleasures, intimacy is vital in this all too cold world.
Have sex but be responsible with your sexuality.
Whether or Not to have Safer Sex:
In my opinion, it is the right and responsibility of any two or more consenting adults about to start a sexua| relationship, even if it’s a casual one, to have a conversation about whether or not they wish to practice safer sex. I encourage people to have safer sex but no one has the right to tell anyone what to do with their own body. Some people like taking risks; some are down-right self-destructive and destructive to others. Some choose to smoke cigarettes or do recreational drugs. Some eat junk food. Some watch Wrestlemania.
Whatever the two or more people about to begin a sexua| relationship decide it should be a mutual agreement. Don’t leave it to assumptions or reading between the lines. Don’t have your head in the sand. Don’t fantasize that God or Spirit or good luck is a substitute for a safer sex strategy. Talk about it openly and decide what level of risk is appropriate for the situation.
Know Your Partner: Get Tested
Having sex with any person who hasn’t recently been tested for sexually transmitted infections including having blood tests for herpes, hepatitis, and HPV is like playing Russian roulette. Not only would you not know what you may be exposing yourself to, but the person in question may be in the dark themselves. Some people would rather not know than know. Knowledge is empowering and in this matter not knowing is simply foolish.
Don’t be intimidated to ask. In this day in age it isn’t disloyal or rude or unromantic to ask about someone’s sexually transmitted infection status. Make sure that you have been recently tested yourself if you are not in a long-term monogamous relationship.
If you do not know your partner’s test status it’s best to assume that they have at least one sexually transmitted infection and to govern yourself accordingly. If you do not know your test results you should also assume that you have at least one sexually transmitted infection and should take the appropriate precautions to inform and protect your partner/s.
Know Your Limits: Stick to Your Comfort Zone:
A lot of people, especially women, get intimidated by their partners into engaging in sexua| acts that are outside of their comfort zone. Do not allow anyone to pressure you into doing anything you are not ready, willing and able to do. It’s your body, exercise the fullness of your rights.
It’s all a matter of choice. No one is less cool or less committed to any relationship by sticking to their own sexua| boundaries.
Use a Condom/Dental Dam:
Safer sex means using a condom for genital, oral and anal sex if there is a penis involved or a dental dam or saran wrap if there isn’t a penis involved. If someone is allergic to latex there are polyurethane condoms available. For oral sex there are flavoured condoms as an option.
Please don’t use a condom that contains a spermicide as these tend to irritate your mucous membranes and make the people involved more likely to get a sexually transmitted infection.
Don’t develop a false sense of security with condoms/dental dams/saran wrap. These do not cover areas of the body that can still transmit and be vulnerable to infection, using an antiviral gel on possible transmission and infection sites can help lessen this possibility. For example if a man gets herpes sores in his pubic hair area or perineum or buttocks, wearing a condom will not protect his partner; using an antiviral gel will.
Condoms can also break or slip off. Using an anti-viral gel underneath a condom will help protect in the case of a broken or slipped-off condom. Using a water-based lube or anti-viral gel outside of the condom will reduce the likelihood of the condom breaking.
The condom should go on as soon as the clothes come off if not before.
Once a man has ejaculated, he should remove the condom from his penis and remove his penis from intimate contact with his partner as condoms are very likely to slip off as the penis becomes flaccid.
If you are practicing fisting, latex gloves are recommended.
Use an Antiviral Gel:
I have been treating herpes holistically for 16 years now, starting with my own. Even during the heady days four years past when I finally was able to put together an effective protocol for controlling herpes outbreaks, I was still left with a daunting challenge.
Yes, now I knew I could greatly limit the frequency and severity of outbreaks with the virus for myself and others, in fact I could keep many people outbreak free for vast stretches of time, but that still wasn't enough of a safeguard against infecting others with this lifelong viral illness.
The fear of passing herpes on to loved ones kept myself and keeps many others reluctant to have a sex life at all, and ironically, having a happy and active sex life is one of the best ways to keep the virus dormant. Happy, sexually active people are less likely to have outbreaks.
Condoms are of course a great tool in making sex safer. But there are problems with condoms, they can break or slide off. They don't offer much help if the man's site for herpes or genital warts are in locations other than the penis, i.e. buttocks, legs, etc.
The Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation spent twenty-five million dollars researching natural microbiocides to find natural barriers that would protect women in the third world from HIV. What they discovered is that Carrageenan, a natural component of some red and brown seaweeds, is an effective barrier which inhibits the ability of HPV, herpes and other STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) from replicating on the surface of the skin and inhibits their ability to adhere to the skin. We developed our own microbiocide with Carrageenan and other substances we were already working with in the protocol and developed our own formula. Our Red Marine Algae and Carrageenan Anti-Viral Gel is edible, completely non-toxic and can act as a lubricant. It is not meant as a replacement for condoms, it's designed as a supplement to condom use to make it less likely to infect your loved ones. It's effective for genital, anal and oral sex.
You use the gel as a barrier so the best way to use it in terms of heterosexual sex is for the man to put some on his penis and then put a latex condom on the penis. Then a small amount of gel would be applied to the labia of the woman and also inside her vagina. The gel should be reapplied every 30-45 minutes. Even after being sucked or licked there is enough of a coating of the gel to be effective for 30 minutes. The gel can be used as a barrier in anal sex, oral sex, lesbian oral sex and even for kissing.
The gel must be used with a latex condom or a dental dam/saran wrap. The gel is not a contraceptive and will not prevent pregnancy.
If you are a woman, regardless of whether or not you are sexually active you should place a small amount of the gel inside your vagina three times a day every day to help prevent outbreaks and viral shedding. If you are a man and have symtpoms after sex or self-gratification you should apply the gel three tmes a day to the areas where you have previously ahd sores.
To inquire about ordering the gel email me or visit http://www.antiviralgel.com
Urinate After Sex:
It is crucially important for women to urinate as soon after sex as possible. I recommend that it be within 15 minutes of completing the act. Failing to do so on a regular basis can lead to urinary track and bladder infections.
I recommend that men follow this advice as well.
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