Most women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. You are not alone. The clitoris has thousands of nerve endings on it, which make stimluation extremely pleasurable. Try experimenting with what you like clitorally by yourself and then invite your partner to participate. There's nothing shameful about it, and it can add more variety to your sexual menu. As far as penetration goes, try different positions and see which gives you the most pleasure and the least discomfort. Sitting on top of your partner is usually less stressful to the bladder. Lying on your side is another great position and gives you the flexibility to adjust the pressure of penetration.

Melissa

Hey,
I'm a female. Most of the time when my husband and I are having sex, it's OK. So we ALWAYS use clit stimulation so I can enjoy myself too. I've never (I'm 42) had an orgasm with only penetration by the penis....it just doesn't do enough for me. There's nothing wrong with clit stimulation. If you want to enjoy yourself, then do it. We buy massagers at walmart and use that for the 'stimulator'.

Hope this helps