I stumbled on to this post at random, but it seems that he's up to cheating again or his desire for you is low. It could be his Testosterone/hormones are low, decreasing desire. It's one of the two more than likely. A doc can do blood tests if he's willing to go. Diet influences desire to a large extent, as well as many environmental and physiological factors.

I can't imagine you have much trust if you were cheated on, he messed up and/or you weren't providing something for him. Whether intentional or not, don't blame yourself for not filling some need he might have or want.

If I were you, I'd been gone long ago due to trust issues. If you want to be more intimate with him, ask him to ask you what his needs are or how you can help become more intimate again. You can't make him want you, it has to be a decision he comes to on his own with you being supportive, inquisitive, and loving.

Many relationships become stagnant throughout the years, it's important to keep them fresh with new experiences, ideas, thoughts, revelations, or any kind of exciting additions. Problem is, most people become so used to one another that they forget and don't take what I stated to heart. You're dealing with some tough questions and only you can come to those tough conclusions. I wish you the best in your quest.

With all due respect, why would you ever want to stay with a man who has cheated on you? It is totally disrespectful to you and who knows what STD or worse he could pass onto you? You still are young and like you say attractive and if you have a lot to offer someone, move on to someone who will give you the respect and affection you deserve.

But don't take that the wrong way. LOTS OF WOMEN play the fool, you're in good company. Listen, I just come out guns a blaz'in because I want women like you, fine, good, sexy, passionate, smart (at most things)...women exactly like you that kid themselves into thinking their guy would never do this, that or the other thing. He's doing it. Clarification...he's doing her. Guys typically don't want sex with their wives because they're having it with another woman. I'm a guy, I know these things, sweetheart. You need to hear this. Stop settling for a guy that cheats, shaves his dick, and gets it on with another. UNLESS, you can handle loving a guy...a guy that cheats. Some woman can separate the two. Sounds like the "no sex clause" in his marital vows irks you mightily. It would me, too. You've got to really think long and hard (pardon the pun) about your marriage, and this guy you have made a life with. I can see both sides...

Face forward, eyes wide open...it's time for you to take a bite of the apple and instantly realize that you are married to a a cheating husband. There, I said it for you, you don't have to pretend any more. Now, shake the cobwebs out and really search inside for all the positives this guy gives you vs. the negatives. I know many women who could give a damn about the sex because the money, the lifestyle, all the rest of the stuff he delivers is a good trade-off. Is this you? Only you can answer that one.

If sex is big for you, and I'm leaning that way by the post you wrote...either you get really acquainted to your vibrator, cheat behind his back, or...what? Is there a third option I don't know about? He won't change...guys that age who are getting ass on the side really never change. Balls in your court, whatcha gonna do?