He is in a hurry to get to the end of the trip instead of enjoying the trip itself. Why do some people go the interstate instead of the scenic route? He has probably always used hurried masturbation to get relief and is using that same timing now. Talk to him when you are not engaging in sex and explain to him.

Thats just satisfaction for him, he couldn't care less about you, if you want a boyfriend, find a real man, one that cares about you too, and take pride in yourself, don't let yourself be fodder. Jungle love gets boring after a while.
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Newly married and no expert on lovemaking. But I do know it should be a mutual thing of listening to each other and giving to each other in sharing for the two.It sounds like yor guy is incapable of that and it appears he has low impluse control and in the final analysis just plain selfish.I have some girlfriends who prefer it fast and hard too and some like you and me who prefer it slow.It all should be worked out in a shared mutual giving.My hubby is huge, huge and ony some of him fits deep in me and only with much lube and him going so slow. Thank God he does not thrust fast and hard and is so lovingly understanding.Besides I prefer it slow anyway. You raised a excellent issue thanks. Love.

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It does bother me that guys like it hard and fast, but I find now, that since I have found the one I love sex is slower and we both enjoy it a lot. Maybe it depends on all other kinds of chemistry, past boyfriends of mine didn't totally connect with me as a friend and companion, just a hot boyfirnd, but since I met Jack, it's been better. I feel like sex all the time, and I like to arouse him more than just before sex, like in the morning, it kind of creates build up during the day, he spends all day looking forward to what he knows is coming, so I think he likes it to last.

Everyone is different. As a guy, I like to start slow and then build up. At the end, right before and during orgasm the body goes on autopilot and I go fast and hard. My DW's favorite approach includes a fair amount of foreplay, leading to my manually stimulating her to the point that she is just starting to come, then she wants me to penetrate her and pump her like a jack hammer while I continue to manually stimulate her clitoris. When she wants me inside of her, she definitely wants it as hard and as fast as I possibly can. Of course I love it, but I would usually prefer to start slow then build up the rythmn. So it's not always a guy thing. Sometimes it's a gal thing as well.

I can tell you're a smart woman by dumping this lousy lay toot sweet. Listen, MOST guys don't know how to do it, that's a fact of life. Nobody ever really teaches guys how to slow-bang a woman into orgasm. You can blame it on the school system, or Bush, or the Iraqi conflict...but really, it comes down to "taking responsibility for your own lack of education". Whatever topic I don't know about, I go and find out. I make it my mission to be an expert in that field. Takes some effort. Takes some discipline. Most guys don't know where the clitoris is located, but I bet they know the entire statistical matchup between the Patriots vs. the Eagles. Go figure. Hang in there, I realize it's an uphill battle, but 25% of the guys out there know what to do. You've just got to wait your turn at bat.

Well hello! Let me try and give my input and see if this could be the answer you were looking for. As the 18 year old guy that I am, I used to be the same way.. For me.. It was inexperience and a bad teacher. I had to reteach myself differently. The main reason I did it was simple.. Whats the main thing we all have in common when it comes to cumming? Consistency. What better way/easier way to be consistent than to drill you? It's hard giving you what you want, and how you want it without any clues besides the movement of your body. Not all guys know the language of the female body. I guess I'm just lucky to have cracked it at such a young age even though it won't help me much. I don't want more than 5 sexual partners in my life time. That's just not who I am. Oh well :P. I know it's lame, but try talking to him about it.. Any real man is aiming to please his lady. Plus it's more fun to make your girlfriend cum because it's so much easier to make us guys cum :D it's like a game that I want to win multiple times before you even get the chance to touch me.

I've been with guys like that in the past, (mostly younger guys). It's like they're running a race or something.

I'm not sure why he only likes it hard and fast, lame. I am a male and slow and easy is the way to go most of the time. My wife thinks I am great in bed, but us males are sexually limited in so many ways. I don't feel any kind of buildup in any way and Ejaculation comes about so abruptly and is a joke entirely and completely overrated to the point of being labeled an ogasm, which is false. Us guys don't ogasm at all, in fact I despise Ejaculation all together. My wife gets to enjoy multiple, full body and intense ogasms, but not me and this is problematic to me for obvious reasons. Ejaculation is purposeful, a bit of relief only, not really pleasurable like ogasms, which are purely pleasure without purpose.Where it is at for us guys, is blow jobs, Oral sex is great and the only intensity us guys experience in bed. Practicing thorough and quality oral sex is crucial and is what I would suggest to your man, who can only pump away hard and fast, Weird and lame. But on the other hand, my wife says she does not experience near as much pleasure from receiving oral sex as I do. As intense as Oral is for me, I enjoy giving as much as receiving. So connecting physically in bed is obviously very challenging, but connecting on an emotional level comes naturally. Good luck with trying to understand and solving your concern with your man. Hope my input has helped.