Day one by ausjulie Blog entry

Blog: One month to live - 30 day challenge
by ausjulie

Day one

Gosh this may just work!

Date: 4/22/2008 12:45:40 PM ( 16 y ) ... viewed 2729 times

So the first day you are set three tasks:

Task 1. List 5 things you'd change about your life if you only had one month to live. Choose one of those things to start working on today.

My list:
i) Move home to Australia to be close to family
ii) Spend my last days doing things with my family that we all enjoy, camping, fishing, out doors things
iii) Not be in such a hurry, slow down
iv) Make sure my kids knew how i feel about them
v) Be intimate with my husband every day

What i chose to work on:
Slow down- Lately my kids have been telling me i drive too fast. A typicla day for me is go to work, leave work pick up my daughter, race home to pick up my son to get him to a judo lesson, Shop/Cook dinner, try to exercise, try to paint the house, race back pick up my son, feed the kids, clean up. Each day is somehtign different but i am always racing around like a crazy woman trying to get everyone to where they need to be on time. Well i decided today i was not going to break the speed limit not once- if this meant being late so be it. If this meant people have to wait so be it. I drove home from work and did not speed once. I felt so calm i cannot tell you the difference it made. For some people this may not seem like a big deal but i have probably broken the speed limit every day for the last 2.5 yrs of my life- and not by just a little. I am a good driver but no one should drive as fast as i do. This was a big deal for me and i had to consciously slow down and not over take and look for short cuts. And guess what i wasnt late! Tommorrow will be a challenge but i feel like i really can make this one thing work. And what a big change that is going to make in my life. If this is the only thing that changes this is huge!

Me being the over achiever i am, also decided to work on one more thing today, be intimate with my husband every day. I dont mean make love every day (althouth more often then what we do would be nice). I mean making a conscious decision to spend some time holding him touching him looking at him and really letting him know I love him. We always say it to each other every day but today I wanted him to really feel it. If I was going to be leaving him in 30 days I would want no doubt in his mind that I loved him with all my heart and soul. A true pure love. This is going to be easy to do but just making myself remember each day is going to be the key!

Task 2. Describe how you would like your life to be different at the end of the challenge?
I want to pay more attention to the things that matter. I find myself concerntrating on the small things and i dont want to do that. I give my kids such a hard time about there shcool grades when i think they are wonderful individuals who i am very proud to have in my life and the fact that i get to be in theirs is an amazing gift. But i dont tell them this i ask if the homework is done? did they hand in their assingment? Have they got their track uniform cleaned for tomorrow? I know these things are still important and i want them to have a good education. But i have to refocus and realise for them to feel loved appreciated respected is sooo much more important. And ultimatley goign to impact their life more than any other thing.
I also want to slow down we are a very busy family of 5. And i want my kids and my husband and i to have a full life and take advantage of oppurtunities but not at the expense of peace in our life. I am usually yelling hurry up to everyone (even my dog!) i need to slow down and priorities.
i want to live with less adn i want to be kinder to the environment. In australia i was so much more conscious of the environemnt and protecting it. Here in the US i feel like a lot of my beliefs i have comprimised adn i want to get back to those things.
Basically i want to live more by my terms, standards, wants, needs and desires rather than societies. I definatly feel like slowly over time i have become numb and just gone along with what i thought was the right thing rather than consciously putting the things I know are right first! I want to feel like i am living positively with love and peace adn have a real impact (thru my actions)on others that share this universe.

Task 3. Tell a friend/famliy member i am doing this challenge and ask them to mark 30 days from today on their calendar and ask me on that day how things have changed.

I emailed and phoned a very close friend of mine and she has marked her calendar. Also i am letting all of curezone know so if anyone wants to mark their calendar and ask me how i am in 30 days feel free.