aggressive behavior towards toys

hello,

I wanted to dig more into the problem of my daughter's aggressive behavior towards her toys, which I mntioned in my previous post.

She only shows this kind of behavior towards some of her toys. i.e. she says, " I HATE bunnies" and kicks the stuffed bunny. THe same happens with a few other stuffed toys. These are NOT th same dolls that she plays mommy with . I tried to play the little bunny calling her mommy etc. but she will say, I'm not your mommy! I don't like you! and so on.
Needless to say I NEVER kicked my daughter or told her I hated her!! I remember having sadic behavior towards some of my toys as a child, and I wonder whether this issue might hide some more complicated issue that I am unable to guess?

The dolls and toys which she usually plays mommy with are cared and nurtured, ( no sadic behavior here) although she will often play the withdrawal thing: doll is in need, and mommy says "bye bye, I am leaving for groceries" , or , " not now baby, I am having lunch now!" This behavior is very disturbing to me, because it actually refers to real situations that happen everyday...Basically she refuses to allow me any private time. I am the last one to have lunch or dinner after child and husband have already finished theirs, and while eating I am forced to repeatedly tell my daughter to give me some quiet time, since she becomes VERY demanding as soon as I sit at the table.
The grocery thing can be explained this way, the only moments I leave her home with a babysitter is to run errands, sometimes I let her come with me but this is not always possible, she behaves nicely with the babysitter but she always cries and whines as I leave.
Apparently her interpretation of the problem is actually the opposite of my point of view!

I appreciate your advice, I struggle to find balance and to understand whether I actually am a bit of a selfish mother ( as her behavior towards dolls suggests), or if I am letting her be tyrannic ( as my mother always warns me, but please note that her parenting ideas are far from AP )

Thanks