Re: Platonic Relationships

BlueRose,

(What a lovely screenname.) Thank you for your response. It was really nice to hear of your experiences as well. It really surprised me that when military wives came here to work where I work, I would reach out but in all cases they did not become friends who would hang out although I seemed to be their favorite person at work. One person is not very social; another was young and thought we wouldn't have much in common. Yet in both cases they mentioned missing home and having moments of loneliness, especially the young one. She would even talk regularly of being lonely and not knowing anyone. We got on well at work but she wouldn't follow through with plans to hang out so I let it go.

This baffles me. Yes, I can sense that we're not exactly the same and we're not going to find an instant soul mate in each other. I was okay with that. I have a few friends on the island - only one close one - and she didn't. Wouldn't a person rather hang out occasionally with someone than be lonely constantly? I guess not. Perhaps for a lot of young girls, it is still uncomfortable going outside their social click. Being not many years out of high school, this is a possibility.

As for life long friends, yeah I find it hard as well. That's possibly why I hold on to my East Coast friendships. I know it took years to create bonds with those women. None of them had that instant soul mate connection with me but over time I built a really strong bond with them (imagine that). They seem to have a loyalty and stick-to-it-ivness that other women, even my sister doesn't have, and they're the ones I'm closest to.

So I'll just keep on. My one major plan is after my husband is restationed in Virginia, we may have the option to stay there. This in my mind will give me the opportunity to find and build permanent relationships. Also, when I was single, I joined a social group to find better relationships with men; maybe the same thing can work in relationships with women (after I get back to Virginia).

On another note - don't join the Red Hat club - please! Red and Purple are the worst colors ever to put together!!! Why couldn't it be Red and pale pink, or Red and beige? The only thing that could ever be worse is Green and Orange!!!!! *shudder*

Thanks again, ttyl.

~Roooth