I wish it were that simple. None of these things were within my control.
My Mother died
My son was born
I met my first husband
I got fired from a job
My first husband left me
I was called out of the blue for a new and better job
I got really sick (deathly ill as a child) - two Octobers in a row. Actually I hardly remember Halloween as a child, I always was too sick to trick or treat
I won a huge award at work
There are many more examples of things throughout the 53 years I could neither control nor could see coming my way. Almost like being cosmicly dumped on.
I wish it were me making these things happen, so that I had any control. I think I'll just throw the good energy out into the universe.