Re: can you help?

You're welcome. I can see from your latest post that you are now thinking this through, thus gaining more insight.

I just wanted to add something about trusting people. In the past, I've befriended people who eventually disappear from my life. Some didn't disappear until they got to the point where I only heard from them when they wanted something. Usually, when I helped them, they then would stop keeping in touch. A couple of times when I saw that pattern, I was the one who stopped calling. So...it got to the point where I would tread cautiously when trying to make friends. You know, I'd keep my distance until I got a feel for what a person was like. A few years ago, I befriended a former neighbor. We hit it off and had many common interests. I thought I had a friend for life, even telling her about the times I got burned. Well...she, too, is gone from my life. She had been dating a guy she thought she was going to marry but he cruelly dumped her. I tried to be there for her but she rarely kept in touch. Finally, she told me that I reminded her of when she was dating him, that's why she doesn't call anymore!

The point in telling you this is that I still want to make friends and still believe that I will find friends who will become lifelong friends. Yes, I proceed carefully and I well know there are no guarantees but if I don't try, then how will I know? You see, you have to take that chance and trust. There is nothing wrong with proceeding cautiously. In fact, I think it's better than plunging into a friendship/relationship without knowing much about that person.

Finally, have you read any "Law of Attraction" materials? If not, take a look at the "Law of Attraction" forum here at CZ. Look for posts by "Invincible". She has so much good stuff out there. Take a look and see if you might find this to be helpful to you. In addition, to "Invincible"'s posts, there are other helpful posters there.