when it's your labia you might sing a different tune.

i dated a really pretty women with what she considered a big nose, when everybody in the room thought it was just fine. but to her, it wasn't dainty enough. i convinced her how much of a honey she was and eventually she felt good about herself. had a serious gf in college with big jugs that hurt her back so they weren't an advantage to her. they were very nice but...if it's your ____________ then it's a big deal. a woman's physical appearance is so big to her, no matter how much of this "it's what's inside that counts" crappola she's fed. of course what's in your heart is critical, but a woman will judge herself by her physical negatives before she ever compliments her positives. i don't make the rules, just acknowledge them.