Re: Narcissistic Mother

The lesson I'm learning is why did it take so long to learn to not put myself in a Lion's cage

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Yes, why do we do that? For myself, the answer was somewhat complex. I felt bad at the idea of cutting off all contact because, after all, she was my mother. Plus, I knew that if I did cut her off, she would be calling every friend and relative and telling them lies about me, thus making herself to be the victim. People who didn't live with her had no idea what she was really like as she behaved better around non-family members.

So...I compromised and kept contact to a minimum, often not talking to her for long periods.

I was glad when my parents retired to the other end of the country. So, believe me, I understand how you feel thankful to not live near your mother.

My mother died more than 10 years ago. When she died, I mourned for the mother I always wanted but never had.

I wish you all the best. It is hard dealing with a narcissistic parent.