tight enough to be broken..I've done it...How about, just for a second, that this being held from both directions and this uppulling or upheaval is the sopirit telling you the job, family, etc..are going to have to reform and change for you to continue the Path of U. Yuck, I married my high school sweetheart and spent 23 years with him...when it was clearly a mismatch, I began to drink and then drink excessively to dull the seemingly nonsensical pain- but the truth was I did not belong there and My path was being subverted by my stubborness of doing the cultural correct situation. At the Cost of my God. Gets very crazy, and painful...finally it all was dashed and reformed...I'm hoping, for you,minor or subtle shifts may release your view.
In the final analysis a shift in thought could be enough, particularly if you love unconditionally those in your family- Otherwise it may be time to make more invasive moves. All is you and All is God ~in that you can turst "In God we Trust"-eh? I hear they are removing that from the dollar bill-!