Re: help w boyfriend relationship

"no matter what i say i cant seem to change his mind i feel like im destroying him please help me."

You're destroying HIM?! I disagree - it sounds as if he's destroying you. So, you made a child with a guy that you knew for less than 6 months and now you are in a situation where every aspect of your life must be "approved" or "disapproved" by him. He is not depressed - he is biding his time and coming up with some way to cut you off from the only source of emotional support that you have.

If it were me, I would contact my family, explain what's going on, get some counseling, finish my education, and get the hell out as quickly as possible. Here are some sites that might help you to understand precisely where you are:

http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive.htm


http://www.heartlessbitches.com


http://www.CafeMom.com


http://www.lilaclane.com/relationships/emotional-abuse/


http://www.saferchild.org/warning1.htm


http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive.htm


http://samvak.tripod.com/


It is my hope that you will honestly and truly check out all of these sites and come to the understanding that you are not his companion, partner, or friend - you are property much the same way that a Cell Phone might be. And, be very, very careful of your use of the computer. If he finds out that you have been researching sites like the ones that I've listed above, he's going to make your life a living Hell (if it isn't one, already).

Best wishes to you.