Re: yes

i hear everything you are saying BUT! you are still looking at all the reasons why things can't or won't work out, start looking at how things CAN and WILL work out, because guess what? they can and they will, if you choose for it to be so. pray for a way to be with the one you love, and i know a way will be made. please don't post a message here five years from now about how you let the love of your life slip away due to mortagage and sibling issues etc. i am sure there is a way to make this happen for you, i really beilieve it, so start believing it too. let go of the fear of it not happening and embrace the possibility of it happening. right now you are holding onto the fear of it not happening because it is safer and more familiar to you.

you will see, when you start imagining solutions they begin to coalesce and become real, keep concentrating on the solutions and they will become real.

ff

ps - your mother's fears are not your fears, please don't own them. i still can't help but feel that you are using your mother as an excuse as to why you can't allow happiness into your life, your noble obligation to her is what kept you from experieincing love etc. BLAH! are you using that situation as an excuse to play it emotionally safe? "my mother is so fearful of any change" - the issue here is not your mothers fear of change, it is YOUR fear of change!! if you embracing life means your mother has to deal with change, so be it! things happen, life happens, life demands we learn and grow and face our fears, its not your job to make sure your mother never has to face her fears. your decisions have consequences for other people, yes, so be it, do what your deepest deepest heart tells you to do and then things will work out for the best. my prayers are with you.