"I will NOT take my child to a professional" despite the obvious issues is arrogant and not in the best interests of the CHILD. Thinking no one knows as much as you do is arrogant. There is no special "telepathic" connection here saying the child was not molested.
This is too important an issue to tip-toe around. As I said, if mothers could "tell" when their child is molested, there would be no molestation, would there?